Need prayer be hard work?

Jesus said, When you pray, do not keep babbling like pagans… Matthew 6:7

Then [the prophets of Baal] called on the name of Baal from morning till noon… so they shouted louder and slashed themselves with swords and spears until their blood flowed. I Kings 18:24-29

How should we, as Christians, pray?

That is, of course, an impossible question: prayer is infinitely varied. We might offer prayers that have been written in advance, or simply pray spontaneously from the heart. We might offer long, detailed prayers, or just a few short words.

We might sing prayers in the form of songs or hymns or even use a tongue which is strange to us. We might pack our prayers with requests, or simply sing a song of praise to God. We might give vent to our frustrations and disappointments on God. The possibilities are endless.

But one thing we mustn’t do: we mustn’t “babble like pagans”, as Jesus puts it here. The word he used literally refers to “idle repetition” or “empty words” - perhaps we find an extreme example in the dramatic confrontation between Elijah and the prophets of Baal in 1 Kings 18: “so they shouted louder and slashed themselves with swords and spears until their blood flowed”. Sounds like hard work!

What matters is that our prayers are meaningful, from the heart, and offered with true humility and childlike faith. That sounds easy enough. But I think there is a danger, a risk that we subconsciously pile conditions on ourselves – we get into the way of thinking that our prayers may not be fully acceptable to God because somehow we “didn’t get it right”. Do you know that feeling?

The devil loves to tempt us to discouragement – “Of course that prayer hasn’t been answered! It was such a feeble effort on my part! Did I say ‘Amen’? Was I praying on auto-drive, not really thinking or feeling what I was saying? That person I heard was sick, did I really make an effort to feel what he is experiencing? Did I neglect to add the key words ‘I ask these things in Jesus’ name’ at the end (as if I might ask them in any other name!)”?

It embarrasses me to remember times in my Christian life when I virtually prayed with my eye on my watch: “I managed 25 minutes yesterday – I need to keep going  for at least another ten minutes…” We were encouraged to think of ourselves as “prayer warriors” (my wife has been heard to refer to “rottweilers of prayer”) which certainly means taking prayer very seriously, but isn’t exactly restful.

In a word, there’s a danger that we forget that God is our loving heavenly Father and treat him as if he is a rather demanding head-teacher.

Part of the problem is the sheer routine of life. Life is so ordinary that, let’s be honest, unusual, special things rarely happen. And if you’ve already prayed for a particular topic a hundred – perhaps even a thousand – times, it’s hard to maintain any kind of enthusiasm.

But what matters is that God looks down from heaven with a loving, fatherly eye and says, “My dear child, relax, that’s not what matters! I see you struggling to pray, and my heart goes out to you! I see the frustration and the dryness and I do not forget what I have seen. Your prayers may be feeble, but they are important to me! Yes, your little prayers are important to the God of all creation…”

So, yes, there are certainly times when prayer should be a sustained discipline: times too, perhaps, when we need to combine it with fasting. But the point is that in our daily lives, in the ordinary humdrum routine of things, it can also be a refreshing thing. We can rest in the presence of God, using few or many words. He knows even our grunts and groans, our pathetic “O Lord’s!” (Do we take seriously Romans 8:26?) He even hears our pleas “Lord, I’m so tired! I’m just struggling to cope. Help me!”

I joked about the prophets of Baal: their hours-long prayers, their dancing, their gyrations, even their self-mutilation. It sounds like hard work! Yes, indeed. And of course that is an extreme example. But we Christians need to be careful. Prayer can and will sometimes be hard work; but it can also serve as a peaceful, joyful thing.

Jesus saw at one point that his disciples had got into a pretty frazzled state, what with John the Baptist being beheaded, the crowds flocking round, and endless demands being made on Jesus, so he gave them an invitation: “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest” (Mark 6:31).

Our “quiet places” may be only for a few minutes, with our eyes closed and in a noisy place: but let’s take full advantage of them.

Dear Father in heaven, help me to grasp that I don’t need to prove myself to you; you know me through and through, you have forgiven my sins, and you love me with an undying love. Please teach me how to rest in you day by day. Amen.