“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Luke 6:27-31
“Enemies? But
I don’t have enemies! I just have friends who don’t like me...”
“Ha-very-ha”
is my response to that witticism. All credit to the speaker (a well-known
modern poet, I believe) for his self-deprecating humour. But the fact is that
one of the battles of life is working out how to handle, if not actual enemies,
certainly relationships in our lives that are not easy.
At a fairly
everyday level, the difficult situation may simply be a head-on difference of
opinion, or a grating personality clash, or a perceived wrong done. For some,
of course, it may be far worse: a serious hurt or injury. For Christians in
many parts of the world it is outright persecution or injustice. But the fact
is that “enemies”, in whatever form they come, can’t just be shrugged off with
a wisecrack. Would that they could!
Well, Jesus
has an answer to the question, How should I treat my enemies? Love them. Yes;
no ifs, no buts: love them.
My wife and I
were mulling over these verses in Luke 6 recently and we discovered – not by
any means for the first time – that what seems very simple advice is in fact
far from so. Here are some of the things we pondered…
First, loving
and liking are very different things. You can love someone even when you
don’t like them.
How so? Well,
liking is an emotion, a feeling, something that you have no control over,
something that comes into you from outside; loving, on the other hand, is an
act of will, something you choose to do, something that comes from within
you.
It’s hard to
imagine Jesus liking the soldiers who nailed him to the cross, yet he chose to
pray that God his Father would forgive them (Luke 23:33-34); which means,
surely, that he chose to love them. (Have we, by the way, ever pondered whether
that wonderful prayer was actually answered? I imagine we just assume it was,
for at this point the Father and the Son were still in perfect harmony; and
that must be right. Well, what clearer example could we want?)
But second, forgiveness
can be tricky.
Jesus’
enemies, when they heard him pronounce forgiveness of sins, condemned him: “Who
can forgive sins but God alone?” (for example, Mark 2:6). This, surely, is a
fair question: who indeed? If nothing else, Jesus’ words point to the fact that
he was God in the flesh.
But in many
other places Jesus instructs his followers not only to love their enemies, but to
forgive them. Right here in Luke 6 he teaches “Forgive, and you will be
forgiven” (verse 37). But we are not God!
Perhaps this
is a puzzle we can never fully resolve, beyond saying that while of course the ultimate
decision to forgive belongs to God and God alone, the willingness to forgive must be there on
our part. If – or when – we reach the point of saying “I forgive you”, it can
only be on the basis of an authority delegated to us by God.
Third, looking
at the passage as a whole, we concluded that loving enemies boils down to
two basic responses on our part: first, wish them well, and not ill; and
second, do them good, and not harm.
Experience
suggests that even that can be desperately hard: “But how do you expect me to
wish well to that person who has hurt me so badly, never mind do them good!” To
which the honest answer may well be, “With great difficulty”.
But this is
where the grace of God within us makes the impossible possible. Once we make up
our minds to love that person, and pray for the help of the Holy Spirit to do
so, a wonderful thing begins to happen: we begin to see them through new
eyes. At the deepest level, we begin to see them as God sees them - not
just as nasty or spiteful or whatever, but as really rather pathetic and
pitiful. We may not have changed our enemy; but we have undergone change
ourselves – and that may be far more important.
At this point
my wife and I felt that we had come about as far as we could.
But we did then
recognise that - well, wonderful though all this is, is there a danger of
seeming soft on sin? We reminded ourselves that there are such things as rights
and wrongs, and that the wrongs need to be “called out”, to use the modern
expression. God isn’t a heavenly grandad who always smiles benignly and says
“Oh, don’t worry, I’m happy to turn a blind eye”. That isn’t the kind of God he
is. He is perfectly pure and holy. So casual indifference to wrong isn’t an
option.
But we came
to the conclusion that that is, so to speak, God’s problem, not ours. If our
enemy remains hard and antagonistic, well, that’s for God to deal with as he
sees fit.
As far as we
are concerned, our Christlike duty is plain: Love your enemies. Just
that: let’s say it again; no ifs, no buts.
(And remember,
by the way, that in difficult relationships, the fault, ahem, is unlikely to be
all on one side…!)
Lord
Jesus, thank you that even as you hung dying on the cross you chose to
demonstrate your love for those who killed you by praying for their forgiveness.
When I feel that I have been wronged by someone, please help me to see them
with your eyes – and to love them with your love. Amen.
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