Jesus said, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’ Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’ Matthew 7:21-23
The Lord
is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead, he is
patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to
repentance. 2 Peter 3:9
After
preaching recently I was told that somebody had been upset by something I said.
This, in my experience, doesn’t happen often (though possibly people are just
too polite to say). But when it does it bothers me. Perhaps what I said
was wrong? Perhaps what I said was right, but said in the wrong way? Perhaps I
just hadn’t made my meaning clear, and caused misunderstanding and hurt? Oh
dear.
I had been
speaking about the story of “the wise and foolish bridesmaids” (Matthew
25:1-13), where Jesus (the “bridegroom” obviously stands for him) warns us to
be ready for his return because the opportunity to respond to God’s love will
not last for ever. In the story, the bridegroom delays his coming for a long
time, but after he does come “the door was shut”, leaving the foolish
bridesmaids - their torches unlit and with no oil to re-light them – outside
and in the dark. It’s a story about exclusion.
I didn’t
harp on this part of the story (at least, I hope I didn’t). But it’s
there – indeed, it’s central to the story - and it would have been dishonest to
gloss over it. The lady who was upset was thinking about her husband, an
unbeliever, and was - understandably - fearful for “the door being shut” on him.
It was
hard to know what to say. Surely every Christian has people in their circle of
family, loved ones and friends who don’t believe in Jesus, and we find the
thought of them being excluded from God’s eternal kingdom painful. But we don’t have the
right to airbrush this aspect of the truth out of our understanding of the
gospel.
The fact
is that the Bible often leaves us to juggle uncomfortably with statements that
seem at odds with one another. There are, for example, many passages as well as
Matthew 25 which render “universalism” - the belief that in the end everyone
will be saved - impossible. Jesus certainly didn’t teach it, as we know from
his solemn warnings about the day when “there will be weeping and gnashing of
teeth” (eg, Matthew 13:42, 50).
But then
along comes his first apostle, Peter, who tells us that God is “not wanting
anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance” (2 Peter 3:9). Paul
says something very similar: God “wants all people to be saved and to come
to a knowledge of the truth” (1 Timothy 2:4). Some Christians try to wriggle
out of the plain meaning of such verses, but they are far better taken at face
value.
Putting comforting
verses like those side by side with Matthew 7:23 or the story of the ten
bridesmaids doesn’t create a contradiction. But it can be difficult to
reconcile (a) a God who excludes certain people from his kingdom, and
yet (b) wants everyone to be included. Does this mean that human free
will can ultimately thwart the will of God? It’s hard to avoid that conclusion
- that God in his extraordinary humility takes our freedom with such deadly
seriousness as to allow his purposes to be defeated. (Will he too be weeping on
that day…?)
My
response to the lady who was upset was twofold.
First, that she should persevere in prayer for her husband – that, I’m
sure, went without saying.
There are
many stories in Christian history of conversions that took place years after a
loved one had been persistently praying for them. The conversion of Augustine (354-430),
the north African teacher and bishop, is a well-known example. His devout
mother, Monica, who died in 387, never gave up in praying for her wayward son.
(Her husband, too, was converted on his death-bed, so she lived to see the
conversions of both husband and son.) Never give up hope!
Second, that she should trust in the perfect justice of God, however hard
it might seem. In Jesus’ story it could seem as if the bridegroom rejects
the foolish bridesmaids. “Rejects” sounds harsh. But perhaps it is too strong a
word. Certainly, they are excluded; but it would be more accurate to say
that they are self-excluded by their own carelessness. They were, after
all, invited to the wedding banquet, and, indeed, given an important
role to play in it.
The
message of the story, then, is that God is just too serious to be taken
lightly. But whatever happens to our unbelieving loved ones, we can be sure it
will be right and good, for God is a just, holy and loving God. And we will see
it in that light, for our own understanding will be perfected, and our
perceptions will be like those of God himself.
Lord God,
as I think of the people I love who do not know you, I cannot help but feel
unhappy. Please help me to see them through your eyes, and to find comfort in
your perfect justice and your unbounded love. Amen.