Encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. Hebrews 3:13
I need encouragement, don’t you? In fact, after the basic
necessities of life – food and drink, work, rest, leisure and so on – I can’t
think of anything much I need more.
The Bible has much to say about it. I think it’s rather
wonderful that in the early church the apostles gave somebody the nickname “Mr
Encouragement” (literally, “son of encouragement”). Joseph Barnabas, whatever
his faults and weaknesses might have been, was obviously the kind of person who
gave others a lift; as I like to put it, he was a picker-upper rather than a
puller-downer (Acts 4:36).
The word most commonly used in the New Testament for “encourage”
has a wide range of possible connotations, everything from “comfort”, to “cheer”,
to “help”, to “support”, to “exhort”, to “urge”, even, perhaps, to “gee up”. In
John’s Gospel Jesus uses it to describe the promised Holy Spirit, where the NIV
translates “advocate” (14:16, 14:26, 15:26, 16:27), describing somebody who
stands by you and speaks up for you in a court of law.
Whoever wrote the Letter to the Hebrews obviously felt the
members of the church he was writing to needed encouragement on a regular
basis: “Encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today...”
Don’t put it off! If you sense that somebody needs a bit of a boost, then the
time they need it is now, not tomorrow or next week or next year; any of those
might be too late.
Encouragement, then, is like sunshine after rain. This
doesn’t mean, of course, that there is never a time when something a bit
sharper or a bit more challenging is needed. The New Testament also tells us
there are times we need to correct, warn or “admonish” one another. This can be
hard! – but done in a spirit of love and humility it may be the very type of
encouragement somebody needs: an act, indeed, of love.
It’s striking how the writer of Hebrews finishes that verse
(3:13): we are to “encourage one another daily… so that none of you may be
hardened by sin’s deceitfulness”. He is obviously very concerned: to be “hardened
by sin’s deceitfulness” is no joke – but why does he speak in such serious
terms?
The answer is that a Christian who is losing their way just
a little – going off the rails, as we sometimes put it – is likely only to
carry on on that track if somebody doesn’t “do a Barnabas” for them. Sin and
error can be massively deceptive: what at first seems harmless and innocent
enough can gradually become ingrained as an ever-growing bad habit. It is the
action of a loving Christian brother or sister to take a deep breath and –
well, say what needs to be said. (And we must always remember, of course, that
no-one is immune to the danger. As Paul puts it in Galatians 6:1: “if someone
is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person
gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted”.)
I knew somebody once who was asked to leave the church she
belonged to; to say she wasn’t happy would be a major understatement. But some
years later she told me about it and said, “Looking back now I see it as one of
the best things that has ever happened to me”. It had the effect of
kick-starting her spiritual life.
Another danger we need to avoid is being so keen to give support
that we slip into insincere, shallow encouragement. May God preserve us from
both unctuous gushing on the one hand, and what is really a scold with a smile
on its face on the other. Most people can spot a false manner or words a mile
off anyway (it’s called hypocrisy), and it is no part of Christian love to
offer it. Encouragement – yes; flattery - NO!
One of the greatest things about encouragement is that any
of us can provide it. You don’t need a degree in theology or counselling, you
don’t need your grasp of doctrine all polished and correct – a kind word or phone
call or message, perhaps just a smile, may be enough. I remember somebody once who
got really excited because a relative stranger had “remembered my name!”
A fact: tiny things like this can change someone’s day, perhaps
even their life. Somebody was lamenting, “I just don’t know what to say to our
new neighbours – they don’t really speak English!” and was given the wise
advice: “Have you tried ‘Hello’?” That may be all that encouragement
means in such a situation.
I started by saying that I need encouragement. Some people
who know me may be surprised by that, but I suspect it’s true of even the most
self-confident-seeming people: oh yes, we try to project an image of confidence
and competence, but stick a tiny pin in our egos and we putter out like a
deflated balloon.
Encouragement is, in essence, a part of love. And love is
the greatest thing of all, without which we all wither and die. Lord, help me
to remember that next time I feel inclined to criticise, correct or find fault!
Forgive me, Father, for the times I dent
somebody else’s confidence through unwise or inappropriate words. Just as I
delight to be encouraged myself, so help me to be an encourager of others.
Amen.